An example of consensus processes in everyday life.
A couple of weeks ago, just before half term, it was decided that one of the boys in my younger daughter's class should be moved to the next class up as he was a discipline problem in his current class. This came as news to me and my daughter never mentioned the decision even though it had been announced in class amid great unrest. I only found out when the mother of the affected boy phoned me to find out what I thought about it.
The next we knew all parents in the class had been invited to a meeting to discuss the problem. Even though I am a teacher I have no experience with this age group (9 year olds) and so even as a teacher I wondered what the school expected we could contribute to the discussion.
The meeting included the class teacher (who faces the prospect of following the class for the next four years), the headmaster and the chairwoman of the Parent Teachers Association. A fundamental problem for me was understanding the true nature of the problem. The boy's mother kept saying that she didn't recognise the boy as described by the school and there was talk of bad chemistry between the teacher and the mother affecting the relationship between the teacher and the boy. I don't think that I was the only one confused by the nature of the problem as there were several suggestions relating to the class needing to be observed. But everyone recognised that as soon as a third party enters the room the behaviour of the class is affected. The headmaster had already tried this as had the mother.
It was a heated discussion though everyone remained in control and was doing their best to be constructive. One of the parents voiced what must have been a common concern stating 'I wouldn't come to ask you to solve a problem at my place of work so why can't you come up with solutions yourself?' Another parent voiced what must have been another common concern when she said 'When I heard about this, I wondered if my son would be next to be moved.'
The general feeling though was that the boy 'belonged' in that class and that everything should be done to try and keep him in that class.
From my point of view the discussion was rather negative in that it was mainly focussed on what sanctions could be applied for misbehaviour. The teacher felt that she lacked sanctions since we had voted to stop a system of bad behaviour detentions at a previous parents meeting last year. The prospect of the meeting had made me dig into the issue of school discipline a little and what I emerged with was two main points.
1. Sanctions need to be tempered with positive reinforcement.
2. It is important for a whole school policy so that the children experience consistent discipline (in spite of the fact that Danish children keep the same teacher throughout their school career, they still have cross class, cross year activities).
There was positive reinforcement but the only thing that got reported to parents under the old and proposed new systems was going to be the transgressions.
So this was my contribution to the meeting even though it must have seemed a little wet and liberal when they were looking for suitable sanctions.
When I got home I was still wondering what the point of the meeting was. In the end I came to the conclusion that the headmaster had realised that all the parents were discussing this among themselves and he just wanted an opportunity to clear the air with us all in the same room together and to show that the school were doing something to tackle the problem. The turnout was pretty good (about 70-80% of the pupils represented). So he probably achieved his aim. Plus we agreed to bring back the bad behaviour detentions. I also think they agreed to look into reporting good behaviour back to parents. I'll have to wait and see on that one as I can't always rely on understanding 100% of the Danish I hear.
My only point of comparison is with the UK but I have never been a parent in the UK. I have a feeling that things would have happened very differently. More formal and without the involvement of all the other parents.